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Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« on: June 17, 2009, 11:10:58 AM »
I was recently evicted from a house; I was renting a room, trying to be independent but now im back home with mom. I honestly tried my best..... but failed to keep up their OCD-level standard of cleansliness. I signed a lease that requires me to pay them for all time covered on the lease, even if I am evicted. My lease covered all the way up to the end of July, and I had made a mistake of paying my rent in advance. Over 900 dollars of rent from  the remainder of June and July, utilities, and a security deposit, will not be returned to me. That's about 6 weeks worth of washing dishes for me. Legally they don't have to, because of the harsh lease I signed. What is lawful, and what is morally right are two different things, and I truely believe I have been wronged by their decision to not return the rent and utility money and deposit. (I left the room in perfect condition) They have no need for it than to just feed their own greed.
I have no time, or desire, to take legal action against these sick people. I will be moving to a new city in the beginning of August, and I dont want to be tied down by court dates. I want to move on with my life, but now I am depressed and ideas of revenge keep coming into my mind. But I am determined to pull myself together and move on. I will not take the weak and easy path and do something illegal to them. I dont post this for sympathy. I post this because I know something like this can happen to anybody, and revenge can be tempting, and walking away may not be as simple as it seems. It's taken its toll on my mental and physical health. I've lost my apetite, I haven't showered in 3 days, my hair is a tangly mess. I haven't smiled in about a week, and if you ever meet me one day you'll see why that's so strange. I have no desire to train, no desire to do anything really. All I can do is let time do its thing, and push on with my life. Walking, (feels more like crawling) away from this injustice is the hardest obstacle I have ever faced.

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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2009, 12:22:19 PM »
Sorry to hear man, I feel for ya.  Hang in there, this too shall pass!  I think you're right, moving on is the best thing.  Take it as a learning experience to help you get over the next obstacle.  It's OK to feel crappy about it, but keep moving on, keep training and fight the depression with other positive things.  You'll get there.

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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2009, 12:39:23 PM »
Ouch, you can make it through this though. Like every other obstacle, we persevere.
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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2009, 12:54:25 PM »
Yea dude that really does suck... I mean, it's stupid that it is legal to act that way... but What can you do...

As was said, it is probably best just to cut your loss and move on... My car "Somehow" ended up rolling over and landing on its roof and was totaled out...  It was one of my dream cars... It took forever for me to get it... and I FINALLY got it... then bam... taken away... now I have another car but it isn't the same model or anything as the other...

All in all, I know it isn't the same, but I know how much it sucks to have a really good thing taken away with nothing you can do about it...

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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2009, 12:57:18 PM »
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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #5 on: June 17, 2009, 02:26:53 PM »
Just keep going. Keep on running. (Not away, for future reference.) Keep on flowing over whatever obstacle faces you. But most importantly, KEEP ON MOVING!







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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #6 on: June 17, 2009, 02:39:25 PM »
That sucks man. But you have my full resepct for staying in control and not doing what most other people would do.

I hope you can pull through and make it out. Hey, we should all live another day to make the next better.

I would help you out if I could, but lets all hope you can make it back on your feet and get through. Try training for just one day. Force yourself if you have to. Once you're moving, Parkour can provide a lot of mental reassurance and comfort. It can also help you think things out. Remember my friend, be strong to be useful, so be strong to be helpful for others AND yourself.

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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2009, 08:15:05 PM »
I actually feel much better now. I learned a valuable lesson, which is to pay attention to what I sign.
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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #8 on: June 17, 2009, 08:50:34 PM »
Total respect for being in control and not freaking out.  This is exactly what we train for.  It's a whole lot deeper than just physical obstacles, but the much more difficult mental ones.  My hat goes off to you and good luck in the new city in August!! ;)

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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #9 on: June 17, 2009, 09:44:20 PM »
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Re: Walking away, my most difficult obstacle.
« Reply #10 on: June 18, 2009, 11:15:40 AM »
Exercise releases endorphines, which is basically like a natural opiate and produces a feeling of well-being. So when ever you are feeling down and in the worst of moods, train. It's an incredible shift in mood,  afterwards you will feel happier and more energetic and better able to deal with your situation. What you went through is horrible, and just shows the kind of scum that inhabit this world. It's incredible that you took the high road and didn't retaliate. Terrible things happen to great people, don't punish yourself for your misfortune. Channel your frustrations into your training and you will come out of this a better person.

I wish you the best of luck getting through this. You can count on your friends, family, and everyone on this forum to be there for support.
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